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With the state of matrimony in such decline it is no wonder that saving a marriage is of the utmost importance. Christian marriage help is available and we will address that later in the article. Let’s now take a look at why saving a marriage is possible and help is needed if the 3 warning signs are evident in your relationship.
1. Saving a marriage is still possible but Christian marriage help will be needed if this relationship killer is evident. Communication between you and your spouse is reduced to each talking over the other. Also, look for both parties to be more concerned about what they will say next rather than what the other is really saying. When communication style is dominated by yelling, posturing, eye rolling, huffing and puffing and other unhealthy non-verbal communication this is a major sign of a that your relationship needs help.
2. Saving a marriage when marital partners spend little free time together is not easy but can be done. When couples share little in common and little effort is spent trying to find commonalities this is a sign of real trouble. Of course the ideal is for both partners working together to share each others likes and that the time spent together would overwhelm the need to fulfill selfish desires. Here is an example: Sally enjoys going to garage sales on Saturday mornings. She also likes to go to the movies on Friday nights. Bob is a fishing fanatic and he does whatever he can to be out on the lake Sunday after church. Bob also has his Wednesday night bowling league. If Bob and Sally do not spend time together in a mutually enjoyable activity or learn to participate in each other’s hobbies then the two grow apart and before you know it they have nothing to say to each other. This is also a major sign that you need Christian marriage help.
3. Partners try to control what the other person does and/or thinks. Saving a marriage is needed when this killer is evident. This is a TOTAL marriage killer. Sometimes it is obvious how this has effected a marriage and other times it takes years of controlling behavior to seemingly effect a relationship. You know how it plays out: Bob has been told everyday what he should wear, what he should eat, questioned why he did not come home at the exact time he was supposed to, etc.. Then all of a sudden one day Bob does something he would never have done before (drinking, adultery, etc..) This works both ways of course. The bottom line is that controlling behavior will KILL a marriage.
This seems to be a very negative article but it does not have to be. What I really want you to see is this: You may or my not recognize yourself in these maladaptive behaviors but that is not the biggest issue. The BIG issue is what you will do about this! If you would like to find out how to make the changes needed to have a great marriage click on the link below.